Warning Signs of Possible Sexual Abuse in Children and Teens

Childhood sexual abuse is a serious problem globally. The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) estimates that one in four girls and one in 13 boys will experience sexual abuse by the time they reach 18. Sexual abuse is the most under-reported crime as there are many barriers to reporting sexual abuse, including fear, shame, self-blame, and concern about upsetting others or not being believed. However, research suggests that early disclosure of abuse and subsequent support from family, friends, and professionals, especially within the first year following abuse can lead to better long-term outcomes.

Unfortunately, one study found that almost half of young adults who experienced childhood sexual abuse never disclosed the abuse to anyone, and other studies have found even lower rates of disclosure. As such, it is imperative that family, friends, and professionals are aware of the signs and symptoms of childhood sexual abuse so that they can stop the abuse, prevent future abuse, and get the child the help that they need.

There can be physical, behavioral, and emotional signs of abuse and these signs can differ depending upon the age of the child.

Among younger children

Physical signs of childhood sexual abuse:

• Trauma to the genital area or anus including bleeding, bruising, or irritation

• Blood on sheets or in underwear

• Development of sexually transmitted diseases (STIs)

Behavioral signs of childhood sexual abuse:

• Age regression in acquired skills such as toileting accidents and bed-wetting in children that are fully toilet trained

• Age regression in behaviors such as thumb sucking, increased clinginess, resisting separation from parents

• Exhibits adult-like sexual behaviors, language, and knowledge (mimicking adult-like sexual behaviors with toys or stuffed animals; draws/writes about frightening or sexualized content; plays sexual games with other children)

• Resisting clothing removal at appropriate times (bath, bed, toileting, diapering)

• Increased nightmares, bad dreams, or sleeping problems

• Refuses to share secrets or talks about having secrets

• Suddenly has money, toys, candy, other gifts without reason
  

Emotional signs of childhood sexual abuse:

• Develops new intense fears of certain people and places

• Changes in eating habits (refuses to eat, problems swallowing, decreased or increased appetite)

• Withdrawal

• Decreased interest in friends, school, surroundings

• Unexplained stomach aches, headaches, and pains

Among Older Children and Teens

Physical signs of childhood sexual abuse:

The physical signs of childhood sexual abuse may be harder to detect among teens who may be engaging in consensual sexual activity. However, one-third of all childhood sexual abuse is perpetrated by another teen.

• Unexplained bruises may be indicative of a sexually abusive relationship

• STIs or pregnancy when the partner is unidentified

Behavioral signs of childhood sexual abuse:

• Inadequate personal hygiene

• Drug and alcohol abuse

• Sexual promiscuity

• Running away from home

• Emotional signs of childhood sexual abuse:

• Self-injury (cutting, burning)

• Thinks of self or body as repulsive, dirty, or bad

• Depression, anxiety

• Suicide attempts

• Fear of intimacy or closeness

• Compulsive eating or dieting
  

It should be noted that many of the signs and symptoms listed above can be related to numerous problems and difficulties that a child or teen may be experiencing. There is no one definitive sign or symptom that is conclusive that your child is being abused (short of observing someone abusing your child). For a list of sexual grooming behaviors that may be exhibited by a perpetrator click here. However, it is important for adults to trust their gut when in doubt, and seek consultation from medical and/or psychological professionals, a local sex assault service provider, or child protective services.

What to do if you Suspect Child Abuse

Suspecting that someone is hurting your child is a parent’s worst nightmare. If your child is exhibiting some of the signs of abuse and you suspect that your child may be being abused first, talk to your child. Do not rush or pressure them. Research suggests that if you ask them clear, behavioral-based questions, such as, “Has anyone touched you in a way that has made you feel uncomfortable?” children are more likely to disclose as opposed to labeling the behavior as a sexual assault or rape (as they may not have viewed it that way). It is important to listen to the child, and let them know that whatever they tell you, you will not be mad, you love them, and it is not their fault. Observe their nonverbal behavior and give them time.

If a child discloses child sexual abuse, stay calm, let them know that you believe them, and reiterate that it was not their fault. Be patient, and, if possible, ask open-ended questions to determine some basic information, and then you should call Law Enforcement and/or Child Protective Services in your city/county/state. Other resources include:

StopItNow! helpline: 1-888-PREVENT

ChildHelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-Child

Early detection and intervention can get the child the help they need to have the best outcome, and prevent the perpetrator from further abusing the child or anyone else.